How To Get Girls

I have a simple rule. I will be fully wherever I am. That means focusing on the present moment, being aware of what’s around me, and giving my full attention to whomever I’m walking with. If I find I can’t do that, I will leave. Normally I find I can do it, however, it takes practice.

What are the benefits of this? For one, giving your full attention to a girl can make her feel as if she’s the only woman in the room. That flatters her more than any compliment

The thing about this, a lot of guys hear “Listen to the girl, just listen!” and they hang on her every word, but they are still emotionally affected by what she says. You are not listening intently because you think it is going to help you get laid, or get you a girlfriend. You are not doing it to manipulate anyone. You are doing it because you have (or are developing) a genuine interest in another human being. That is its own reward, but paradoxically that is what will make you more popular and successful.

The other pitfall is, just because you listen to a girl intently, doesn’t mean you should let her carry the conversation. Talk about yourself as well.

There is a story told by a famous audio engineer. He said it was always the session musicians who had the stereotypical “rock star” arrogant attitude. They would tell him to “watch where he was going” or order him to fix the mics on the drum kit. When he would work with Mick Jagger, Jagger would hold the door open for him and ask how his demo tape was shaping up. The reason I tell you this story is to demonstrate that giving people your full attention will result in popularity. Popularity and success with women are very closely related – in fact, they’re almost the same thing.

A great man once said, people who are truly great will make you feel that you can also be great. To encourage others around you, to proactively provide positive energy, to make others enjoy themselves – those things are cornerstones of a magnetic, charismatic and attractive personality. Those things will help you get laid or get a girlfriend.

To become that man, the first thing you need to do is just listen to people, and as Dale Carnegie said: never miss an opportunity to give someone a compliment. If people enjoy being around you, then obviously women will too.

You’ve seen them. Tall, handsome guys with tall, beautiful girlfriends. Perfect white smile, blue eyes and blonde hair. You think to yourself “Goddamnit – if I were blessed with good genetics I could be banging hotties too.” Except you’re not, so you wallow in your self-pity and go home to masturbate with your tears.

Sounds familiar? Let me bring you back to reality.

I remember once, I was in Las Vegas at Spearmint Rhino and saw my wingman, a 40 year old 4’10″ below average looking dude make out with one of the hottest strippers in the club. That’s one example. Look around a little more closely and you’ll notice it’s pretty common for beautiful women to be with ugly or regular looking dudes.

The truth is, some girls care about looks, but most care more about what kind of man you are. Are you a leader? Are you unflappable? Determined? Are you the effect in your world, are are you the cause?

It’s easy for a man to hide and play the victim. Blame your looks, your height, your parents, your bank account. It’s not so easy to look yourself in the mirror and say “This is the man responsible for his success with women.” But once you say that, you’ve just moved a little closer to taking that responsibility – and your world will start to change.

So ask yourself – am I prepared to surrender the possibility of success just because of an old belief or a victim mentality? Or am I going to step up and be a man?

There are women out there waiting for a man – not a good-looking prettyboy, but a man. And those women are desperate. They don’t want some pussy or a child to coddle, but a man who knows who he is and moves with purpose. Can you give that woman what she wants?