How To Get Girls

I have a simple rule. I will be fully wherever I am. That means focusing on the present moment, being aware of what’s around me, and giving my full attention to whomever I’m walking with. If I find I can’t do that, I will leave. Normally I find I can do it, however, it takes practice.

What are the benefits of this? For one, giving your full attention to a girl can make her feel as if she’s the only woman in the room. That flatters her more than any compliment

The thing about this, a lot of guys hear “Listen to the girl, just listen!” and they hang on her every word, but they are still emotionally affected by what she says. You are not listening intently because you think it is going to help you get laid, or get you a girlfriend. You are not doing it to manipulate anyone. You are doing it because you have (or are developing) a genuine interest in another human being. That is its own reward, but paradoxically that is what will make you more popular and successful.

The other pitfall is, just because you listen to a girl intently, doesn’t mean you should let her carry the conversation. Talk about yourself as well.

There is a story told by a famous audio engineer. He said it was always the session musicians who had the stereotypical “rock star” arrogant attitude. They would tell him to “watch where he was going” or order him to fix the mics on the drum kit. When he would work with Mick Jagger, Jagger would hold the door open for him and ask how his demo tape was shaping up. The reason I tell you this story is to demonstrate that giving people your full attention will result in popularity. Popularity and success with women are very closely related – in fact, they’re almost the same thing.

A great man once said, people who are truly great will make you feel that you can also be great. To encourage others around you, to proactively provide positive energy, to make others enjoy themselves – those things are cornerstones of a magnetic, charismatic and attractive personality. Those things will help you get laid or get a girlfriend.

To become that man, the first thing you need to do is just listen to people, and as Dale Carnegie said: never miss an opportunity to give someone a compliment. If people enjoy being around you, then obviously women will too.